First off, I would like to say that I do not think I am fat. Well, most of the time, anyway. Most of the time I have the confidence to think that I look great but there are days when I can't look at myself without having the urge to eat nothing but celery for the rest of the week. For instance, the other day I wore a cute black shirt with lace wing-sleeves and I could look into the mirror and think: "Woo! I'll turn heads for sure!". Right after I bought it, however, I had the sudden need to tear it to shreds and burn the scraps. I'm not quite sure why I get that way every now and then but it really pisses me off; I try so hard to be a role model for good self-confidence and yet I still have crappy days like that. I have a feeling - or rather, I know - that the rest of female-kind feels the same.
If you're a guy reading this you are probably thinking I'm crazy. Not to rain on your parade but that means that most women in the world are insane too. The reason being is that most of us have a warped body image. Just as if you were to look into a carnival mirror, we have a tendency to see ourselves as fat, or ugly, or to see a flaw in our figure. We may be the most beautiful, Julia Roberts-esque girl you ever saw but there is probably something about our image that makes us uncomfortable and paranoid about the way people see us. Media and our social networks have big roles in this problem but a lot of it is internal. Personally, I don't really feel the need to dye my hair yellow and turn myself into an Umpa Lumpa, yet I can see why there are girls out there who do just that. Now, don't go all hipster on me and complain about how they're all posers and they try too hard and that it just makes them look ugly; it's just how some of us are. We feel the need to look like those getting attention and love, so we change our appearance in order to experience the same things. While being tan won't necessarily get you an acting contract, it makes you feel better. I understand! If it weren't for skin cancer and those distracting orange smear lines I'd be right with you!
Now, I'm not here to bash on those of you women who tan, or wear make-up, or get lypo; I wear make-up all the time, I've been known to lay in the sun, and I have some spots on my body that I wish would just go away. I'm here to ask the rest of the world too stop expecting so much.
Here's a shocker for you all. Are you ready? There are no perfect women.
No amount of wishing, praying, cursing, dieting, surgery, exercise, tanning, make-up, dying, or bitching will create the ideal girl. There is just no way.
I guess I’m just tired of listening to the radio and hearing about the newest “life-changing operation” and watching TV and seeing all of the diet pill commercials, especially when I look around and I see girls starving themselves to be thin. And some of these girls are still in elementary school. It’s just sad! And society pushes them to do it, which is the really disappointing part. And those little girl pageants? They make me sick. I chanced upon the show Toddlers in Tiaras while scrolling through the channels on my TV, and I just sat there, open-mouthed, at what these people were doing to their children. Some of these tiny girls – who were no more than seven years old – looked like mini versions of high schoolers! I mean really, people? Let your child have a childhood!
There is something I would like to point out though; I know I stated that there aren’t perfect women in the world – more accurately, perfect people – but there is a point which I think is unhealthy to be at. Severely overweight people have serious health problems that accompany that weight, and that is something that should be cause for concern. However, though I definitely don’t weigh 120 pounds, I’m healthy on the inside, which is what really matters (plus, I stay extra toasty in the winter).
My message this time is that I want people – women especially, given that I myself am a girl – to not judge themselves so harshly on what other people think about you. Public image may be to be thin and tan but it’s ok to be a healthy, normal sized pale girl. Or just healthy and normal sizes. Seriously! So go out there and be proud of who you are, and embrace your faults because they are what makes you unique. And being unique is the best way to get noticed.
Xoxo
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